How to avoid first date jitters

By Jason Daly | June 21, 2009

First date is always a special occasion and it leaves behind lasting memories to treasure and cherish later part of life.

First dates are often considered to be most exciting as it comes with heterogeneous mixture of feelings stirred with romantic expectations and fear of rejection as well. Even the most level-headed individuals get butterflies in their stomach and knee jerks as the D-day of first date approaches.

Here are few simple tips to minimize jitters and make the experiences pleasurable:

1) Try to be yourself. Do not fake images. You cannot fake long and then your relationship will get affected. So, have confidence in yourself and go ahead with life. The person needs to like you the way you are.

2) The meeting place is very important. Choose a public place such as a coffee shop, garden, museum or park to meet your date for the first time. Do not meet at either of the partner’s home as you hardly know whether you would like to extend your date.

3) It is important to have less expectation. Do not day-dream of a charming prince and Cinderella of fairy tales to be your first date. So, set a realistic expectation and you will find that your emotions are much settled and controlled.

4) Keep the interest alive on your first date. The purpose of the first date is to move ahead with more meetings. So, do not speak on unnecessary matters or issues of no interest.

5) Do not be aggressive with your date and do not try to test the limits as at the end you might be regretting for the same. The best way to sway your date is to speak gently coupled with sense of wit and humor. If you lack the wit and spontaneity to make her laugh, keep calm and be an active listener.

6) Last but not the least, is to keep the first date short, sweet and simple. Be respectful to each other and try knowing each other through email or phone conversations before you strike the first date.

All of these tips should help you handle the jitters and practicing these you can be as comfortable as you are talking to an acquaint and not a stranger. Best wishes!

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